Dinner chats!

So I went to dinner with some wonderful ladies last night! We had a wonderful time just fellowshiping and celebrating two birthdays. When we got on the conversation of being single. There were only 3 ladies that were single myself and two others. I had a great conversation about being single and enjoying it. People are always talking about how they are better people when they are in a relationship and I am the exact opposite! I grow more being single! I am more receptive to learn and I enjoy life more. Not saying I don't want to be in a relationship or if a guy tried pursuing me I would reject him right away but right now neither of those are the case and I am just really enjoying life. I am living in a peace knowing God is in control of every aspect of my life and when the right guy walks into my life I know the Lord will let me know. I know he will be the man of my dreams and the best friend I have ever had. Knowing how great he is going to be, makes it well worth wait. I truly look forward to having a relationship like the couple in song of Solomon. I think girls look over that too many times. They look for the momentary comfort in being in a relationship and that isn't healthy or they just know in the long run it won't go anywhere. Girls settle far too much for a man who knows how to talk a good game but can't walk the walk in the long run. And if I were able to talk to every single girl right now and have them listen to me. I would tell them to stop settling for anything less than everything you desire in a man. Lord created you unique and he created your future husband to fit you perfectly. The guy that doesn't treat you like your extraordinary isn't the one for you. Stop filling that hole in your heart with just a normal guy and fill it with The Man that died on the cross because He loves you! He loves you more than you can ever comprehend. And He made someone for specially for you. Don't rush just be patient :) And have a wonderful thanksgiving!

A nugget of unfortunate truth.

Ok, I was thinking this weekend. I think every guy KNOWS how to treat a girl right. I mean think about it, it is posted ALL over facebook, twitter, pinterest and whatever other social media site. How can a guy posbbily not know how to treat a girl? Got me thinking. It isn't that they don't know how to it is that they don't desire to treat a girl right. Because they look at that girl and say (subconsiously) "I don't think she is the one worth settling down for." Which takes me back to Proverbs 19:22 but also takes me back to praying and waiting. Ladies if the guy doesn't treat you like you are truly a gift given by God the first week you guys are talking/dating chances are it is only going to get worse because at the begining of the relationship he is still trying to impress you. He is not yet comfortable around you. So if he doesn't treat you like a princess the odds are that he doesn't think you are worth wimping into shape for. There is a saying in order to attract a prince you have to act like a princess I think that is very true. Hold out for the guy that walks into your life and treats you like nobody else has ever treated you. Hold out for the guy that doesn't try to suedece you but tries to be friend you, the one that pursues to get to know you. Those are the ones worth waiting for!

Now ladies we also have to take into consideration there will be guys that know and desire to treat girls right no matter who they are. Regardless of whether or not they believe you are the one or not. We also need to be aware of those because sometimes they are wolves in sheeps clothing. It seems like they are pursuring you but really they are suedcing you with their charm. Guys are so tricky sometimes which is why i rely on prayer and God's timing! "Above all else guard your heart" Proverbs 4:23! <3

What is to be desired.

Ok, So this really doesn't have anything about who I am but it has a lot to do with what I want in a man and that kind has something to do with me. I mean he will be my husband one day ANYWAY! I was driving home listening to a breakawya podcast they are in a series about the Song of Songs and its actually for young single adults (that's me!) And the Pastor was talking about in Proverbs 19:22 in my translation it say "What is desired in a man is steadfast love, and a poor man is better than a liar" Well in his translation is was more along the lines of kindness is to be desired. and basically a man with nothing is better than a jerk. And this really got me thinking about females today and what we desire. I am totally the notorious girl that thinks all the good looking jerks are attractive thats a given. But I believe what we should be going after is the kindness and gentleness of a man. But hey girls, I feel like I never give the nice guys a chance either. But that is what we should want. I understand attraction and looks are importmant but looks will fade and we should put more importance on the character of a man. I have really been on this waiting kick all about patiently waiting in my personal blog that I write to myself. And in Song of Song the girl is talking to her friends and she says to them O daughters of Jerusalm wait And she talks about how intimate her relationship with her fiance/husband is and how great it is. "For your love is better than wine; your anointing oils are fragrant; your name is oil poured out." character and name go hand and hand in the bible. So she says his name is good! She says "Do not stir up for awaken love until it pleases." I think that is the most important thing I have learned. That love needs to be based on 2 important things 1. Christ, a relationship should have Christ in the middle and Christ should be what brings you together and 2. Friendship, and Kindness. Like I have said before the good looking ones are always jerks but the ones that are your best friends that are kind that open the door for you. The ones we generally throw in the friendzones make the best husbands! Attraction will grow when you learn to look past the looks of a person and look into their heart. Just my tad bit on dating and relationships as a single woman awaiting her Boaz :)